Sharing Breastfeeding Duties

I’m at a loss on what to do next. With regards to sharing feeding duties with hubby, that is. Of course, with me having the breasts with milk (haha!) I get to do this part exclusively. I’ve been wanting to let hubby share in the joy of feeding our baby but haven’t gotten around to actually doing it because:

  • we want to avoid nipple confusion
  • we haven’t bought a single baby bottle, or a breast pump
  • breastfeeding is so easy and convenient for us since I’m a SAHM

therefore, up to now there had been no reason for me to pump and share feeding duties with hubby. But I am getting restless. Except for the few minutes when I’m in the bathroom or taking my meals, I’m with the baby physically 24/7. And I’m beginning to feel isolated and limited. I am feeling the need to go out to the mall or wherever all by myself, even for just a few hours. I’m sure the mommies out there have felt that way at some point in their breastfeeding career. So I want to do something about it before I become resentful.

So want can I do about it? Express my milk and let the hubby or yaya give it to the baby in a bottle. Yes, the solution may be as simple as that but again, I’m having doubts. I’m thinking of buying an Avent bottle since I’ve heard from other mommies that this is the best feeding bottle in the market. But then again, I’m having second thoughts because what if my baby won’t drink from it? Sayang naman, as I’ve heard Avent bottles are quite expensive. Do you think I should buy a cheaper bottle and just change into Avent once my baby has taken to drinking breastmilk from a bottle?

But there’s another thing that is keeping me from buying a baby bottle. I have read somewhere in the net that a breasfed baby should be fed expressed breastmilk straight from a cup and not a bottle when weaning. But since I’m not about to wean my baby anytime soon, I’m not sure if it applies to my case. What am I suppose to do in the meantime?

With my two older kids, I never had this dilemma since wherever I go, the baby goes too. With them, I did not feel this great need for space and have quiet time for myself. I wonder, is this baby fatigue? Is there even such a term? Is it because I’m an older mom now? Or worse, am I having a midlife crisis??? Hay, how I wish somebody can advise me what to do….


Milking Cow

I’m a breastfeeding advocate so yup, my post title pertains to me!

I’ve been a milking cow  for exactly 3 months and 3 weeks now.  And I’m loving every minute of it.  Unlike other nursing moms, breastfeeding for me is breeze… a walk in the park.   But with this 3rd and last child, the first few days weren’t easy.  For someone who takes  pride in being a “breastfeeding expert”, it was a little bit disconcerting, specially since I’ve been proudly declaring to anyone who’s willing to listen that I exclusively breastfed my 2 older kids for a year and continued until they were about 3.  Am I about to fail? NO WAY! I couldn’t, wouldn’t let that happen! So why wasn’t breastfeeding easy during my newborn’s early days,  even for a so-called expert nursing mom like me?

Well, according to information I gathered from the net, in the next two days after giving birth, the newborn gets colostrum which supposedly is enough for for his tiny tummy until the real milk lets down from the mother’s breast.  But what if, despite these experts’ findings and opinions, your baby has a big appetite and is a voracious drinker and after gulping down the colostrum is still obviously very hungry? What’s a mom supposed to do when her in-distressed newborn is bawling so hard from hunger? Surely, one cannot just sit there and calmly explain to a starving baby that hey, you’re supposed to be filled up by now…you already got the colostrum!

I knew that sucking stimulates breast milk production so I let my baby sucked until I’m sore. He would suck and pull at my breast so hard, then in between sucking he would let out a heart-wrenching wail. I tried everything to calm him down, burped him, hugged him tight, swaddled him, rocked and cradled him …all the tricks that worked with my 2 older ones. But he simply wouldn’t calm down. My heart felt like breaking into pieces every time I hear my poor baby’s pleas. I was beginning to panic thinking my milk wasn’t enough although deep down, I knew better. I firmly believe that all moms can produce an ample supply of milk,   so I decided to take on my pedia’s advice and cheat a little, which I had hoped I wouldn’t need to do since as I’ve said, I’m a staunch believer in exclusive breastfeeding.

What I did, as what my OB Gyne (thanks Dra. Abadilla!) advised me to do was to prepare a little amount of infant formula. Then using a medicine dropper, I squirted some infant formula in my breast while my baby is nursing. That way, my baby will continue sucking, thus stimulating breast milk production.  It worked! My baby  stopped crying and fussing and happily drifted off to dreamland. I only had to do it for a couple of days  and only in the interim between colostrum and real milk let down. After that, since I breastfeed on demand, my milk supply became established and thank God, he never had to drink any formula again!

Whew! I’m so glad those early days are now over. Now I understand why some first time moms give up on breastfeeding. Whereas before I cannot comprehend those new moms who chose the easy way out and did not breastfeed, now I can empathize with them a bit, having experienced sore, cracked and bleeding nipples! As an experienced and older mom, it was truly hard for me, e di lalo na for young inexperienced first time moms.

But I would like to advise all pregnant women to breastfeed. This special bonding with your little one is a priceless experience you will surely treasure when your kids are all grown up. Take it from me, the milking cow!

And just to let you know, my little one is currently latched on to me as I’m typing away!